For straight men who are starting to think about gender and sexism and considering the notion that, contrary to what they may have grown up learning, women might well be full human beings with dreams and desires just like them, the personal is political. Yes, it affects your sense of self, your conception of your own masculinity - particularly if you’ve previously built your gender identity on the idea of ‘winning’ women, and particularly if that gender identity is knotted up with feeling lonely, rejected and hurt when life doesn’t reward you with a hot girlfriend.It’s not surprising at all that it’s here, on a dating site, that these men’s deepest prejudices are written in clear, fist-gnawing Verdana typescript.I am a big fan of learning what’s a good through making a contrast between good and bad.So, lets look at a few typical examples of bad profiles: “I am not good at writing about myself, but my friends say that I am intelligent, professional, educated and ambitious. I am looking to a meet an intelligent, beautiful woman for dating and relationship.” – at first, this looks like a well-written profile by a guy who seems to have head on his shoulders. There is nothing “catchy” about this profile – there is nothing that would compel a reader to stop and respond to it.The most chilling theme is the frequency with which these 'nice guys' have answered some of the dating site's more suspicious stock questions - 'do you feel there are any circumstances in which a person is obligated to have sex with you?
Some women will think of the writer of the profiles below as weird, but…Are we ever going to be able to have a conversation about consent, about respect, about fucking, and maybe even about love, that doesn’t descend into bullying and invective? I ask so little of you, and you always shoot me down. **** *There was also the one bloke who told me that successfully dating a feminist author would be “like defeating a third-level boss”, but we won’t go into that right now. After you read advice on writing a great online dating profile to attract women you should be ready to apply this advice and write your own great dating profile.However, it has one major flaw that will make many women skip over it. Lets look at another bad profile: “I went to school in the east coast, but now I work for a major software company where I work up the corporate ladder. I love hiking, watching baseball, and bbq on weekends.” – the writer must be reminded that this is a dating profile – not a resume or a sales presentation in front of his human resources department. as a rule, you should never start your profile by talking about school or work, as it’s not interesting and not really relevant to what you should be trying to achieve – to catch a woman’s attention.” “I love to have fun, party, dance, and drink of my buddies.If you wanna hang out sometimes, holler at me…” – unless you are in a fraternity, you should never come across as someone who has nothing else to him but getting drunk and leading a lifestyle devoid of any real goals or ambition.