In a way, marrying a man makes it easy to 'hide.' People just assume you're straight.
It can be freeing not to have to worry about people's negative reactions to even just seeing you with your partner.
' And he said, ' Since you're asking, I'm assuming the answer isn't straight.' We had a great conversation about what being bisexual means, perceptions of it in both straight and gay culture, and what it means for me personally.
His only real questions were if his dad knew (yes) and if his brother knew (no).
You know that you've hit on the truth.) And, for most of our relationship, all it's really meant is making some past relationships with women make a whole lot more sense.
In the past year, my younger son has started asking some really insightful questions about gender issues and sexual orientation (like, ' Why is sexual orientation defined only by what body part goes where? A couple of weeks ago, during one of our conversations, I knew I had an opportunity to share this facet of myself with him. ' It took him a long time to answer, and I said, ' You've never really thought about it, have you?
Sometimes it means passing depending on the context because it's hard to play the role of educator and/or be on the defense all the time.
Even with friends, I've faced microaggressions in the form of jokes: ' How does straightness feel?
I never gave myself the chance to think about it because I was safe where I was.
'" "I think the weirdest thing for me isn't the judgment of other people (since I just pass for straight), but the idea of what could have been.
Just before I met my current dude (4.5 years and counting), I was trading messages with a gorgeous lady vegan baker.
For him, it was just another thing to know about his mom, to file with things like my being a writer, growing up in Connecticut, etc.
But for me, it was an amazing experience of feeling like he was finally seeing a more complete picture of who I am. Even living in San Francisco, the assumption people make about me is that I'm straight." "I am a bi woman currently dating a bi man.