Though the ways they do it vary, the basic tactic used by offenders is to trick or persuade a young person to share a sexual image, strip or perform sexual acts on webcam or live streaming platforms.
They might do this by grooming the child, building a relationship with them in which the child feels love or a sense of obligation to the offender.
Consider these examples: None of these individuals has had an in-the-flesh sexual encounter outside of their primary relationship, and yet all four have been accused of infidelity by their spouse.
These scenarios beg the question: A few years ago, in an attempt to answer this question, Jennifer Schneider, Charles Samenow, and I conducted a survey of women whose husbands were engaging in significant amounts of extramarital sexual activity, either online or in the real world.
They might pretend to be the same age as the child, flirting with them and asking them to engage in sexual acts.
In some cases they will use information which the young person has shared, for example personal problems or family difficulties, as leverage to get the young person to go on webcam or share a sexual image.
As young people reach adolescence and develop sexually, their interest in sex and relationships increases.In the 21st century, with our increasingly digital lives, the once-clear line between monogamy and sexual or romantic infidelity has become rather blurry.As a psychotherapist specializing in sex and intimacy issues, I regularly see couples in conflict about what does and does not constitute cheating.The children in these cases often feel that there is no way out and that they can’t tell anyone.Let your children know that whatever has happened there is always help out there.