When I suggested I join a gym to lose my baby weight, he made me feel guilty for leaving Amy.I looked at my old life and thought, ‘My God, I had no support system.I fell in love with Amy the minute she was born, and felt so happy for the future.Ross was on a two-year working visa and said he wanted us all to return to his hometown of Wellington when Amy was six months. We were not married and I took it as a given that I could return to England with Amy if I chose.Amy would have to remain in Wellington until she was 16 and able to make her own choice of where to live. I assured them I would fly Amy back four times a year to visit him, and buy Ross a laptop so he could Skype her. By now, I was having suicidal thoughts and had to get away.My father Richard, 79, a retired teacher, had been seriously ill for a few months, so I had an excuse to return home.They seemed friendly, but smoked a lot of cannabis and so did Ross.
Generally, relocation is not favoured by the courts because they feel that children should have two parents to whom they have regular access. My priority was Amy but I felt I would lose Once in court, I gave strong reasons why I could provide a great life for Amy in the UK and did everything in my power to prove that Amy would not lose contact with her father. In the end, I hated the country and the way the courts treated me.The stress caused my weight to plummet and I lost almost three stone.I had panic attacks, high blood pressure and was constantly catching colds.We arrived in Wellington in December 2007 and, for three months, we stayed with a friend of Ross’s in his spare room while I found us a flat. I wasn’t prepared for how homesick I felt; I missed my parents and felt disorientated, Ross was reluctant to find work.I took a job as a recruitment consultant, which didn’t compare with my stimulating former career.