Maybe this was not modeled in the home he was raised in.” If you can show him those words are safe with you, he may suddenly feel he can be vulnerable—and won’t be able to stop showing you the love.
“Far too often, the younger generation is quick to dispose of things that don’t work for them in the moment,” says Ivankovich.
“If your partner is receptive to exploring your intimacy together, set parameters for how to go about this.
But this habit may lead to you kicking a lot of decent guys to the curb.“There’s this temptation to move faster, but people reveal themselves slowly, over time,” Katz explains, insisting that a dose of discernment can go a long way. We can talk about red flags and generalizations, because there’s no other way to talk about people—but we need to have the wisdom to realize that generalization isn’t always reality.”Let’s practice that sage wisdom.
According to Katz, many men want to reach a certain place of emotional and financial readiness before settling into that super-committed, long-term relationship.
“He might have been having fun until he was ready to settle down and isn’t necessarily a womanizing terror,” Katz says.
If he seems to have all the makings of a supportive partner otherwise, don’t be so quick to write this guy off.
We’re a generation that's raising the bar on happiness and that isn't keen on settling for a ho-hum career, which means it's taking some people longer to figure out who they want to be.