“I could never understand the club scene, where people just start walking up to each other and grinding genitals against one another.Bars feel like the slightly more kosher cousin of clubs,” Max explained.Dena, an editor who lives in Midtown, used Tinder, Hinge, Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel for a year and a half, before quitting cold turkey.After encountering three people who had spotted her on apps in a single weekend, she logged off for good and doesn’t regret it.“Over the past year I’ve dated a handful of people I met IRL, all of which I had a genuine connection with.I’m also not that ashamed to ask friends to set me up with their cute, single friends.” She has more successful first, and second, dates now.Although we're pretty lucky to have access to hundreds of singles on all of these dating apps out there, it's important to take a break from online dating from time to time. Well, you need to give yourself a chance to meet someone organically.
Many women prefer meeting men in real life because it creates the opportunity for a more natural connection.
When you go on those Happn dates, you feel like you’re passing a test and I personally felt like I wasn’t.” Max, a writer who also lives in Williamsburg, considers himself a romantic, which Ok Cupid doesn’t exactly lend itself to.
“Conceptually it seemed great…the internet should be good at identifying potential matches, but in practice it wasn’t for me,” he said.
Julia, a 20-something comedy writer based in Los Angeles, logged off Tinder after meeting a now ex-boyfriend.
Like Dena, she’s found dates with people she’s met at least once before to be more successful, and she’s currently in a relationship.